Jordan and I have a really good marriage. I mean we really have to consider the circumstances here. We got married when we were teenagers, we moved 700 miles away from our families, and he's been on one 7 month long deployment to Afghanistan. And we still feel as much in love as we ever have. What really helps us out is the idea that we will always work it out, no matter how big the argument is, or how heated it gets, we know in the back of our minds that we will work it out. We may not realize how at the time, but we do know that it will be fine. When that perspective goes away, then we may start having issues, but it's been keeping us pretty strong so far. I'm by no means an expert at marriage, that's crazy, but I do know what's working for us. I see marriages fail all around me. That's part of being in the military, and I'm grateful that Jordan and I know how to work it out, instead of giving up like a lot of our friends. We know how to make our love for each other a bigger priority than the issue at stake, or our prides, or our stubbornness. We know how to let each other know if there's something bothering us. Like if Jordan didn't praise me enough for cleaning the house, I tell him. Communication and openness is SO IMPORTANT. You can't just let little things slide either, because if you do that, than slowly the little things will grow, and soon you have big things that you're letting slide and now you're not talking to each other at all. If we get into a disagreement, we don't just give up. We find a compromise. Either we both get our ways or neither one of us do. There isn't a side we pick. There isn't a "my way or the highway". there's always a compromise.
When Jordan is deployed, I tell him everything. If I don't tell him everything, than he might start thinking that I'm hiding things from him and if I'm hiding small stuff from him, what's stopping me from hiding big stuff? See what I mean? Communication is so vital in a marriage, it's ridiculous. Without trust, you have nothing. And when you're spouse is in a different country and fighting in a war, you NEED to have that trust.
Sorry I'm just bored and I wanted to get this out.
That is so true... Some of the people out there have NO idea just how much communication it takes to make a marriage work! It's sad how some people give up just because they don't want to "communicate" or try to do that with their partner.
ReplyDeleteI'm still waiting for the pictures of Lexi's new doghouse. I'm curious to see and hear how that project turned out. If it was easy enough, maybe I can do something like that next year for Hope or something.
lol It's not done yet. We'll have to finish it on Thursday, cause that's my next day off. Then, I'll take pictures and post them. :)
ReplyDeleteIt's a really fun project to do as a couple. You and Zach should try it. It's relatively simple, and good for the dog and good on the eyes.