Lucky

I was recently talking to a girl I work with, who has recently gone through a really hard break up. Brittany is 18 years old, one year younger than me, and I feel decades older than her. I was comforting her as best as I could. I told her that not everyone finds the love of their lives when they're in high school, in fact, hardly anyone does. High school relationships weren't meant to last. In high school, relationships are innocent flings, teenagers getting a taste of what true love is like, practicing for their future when they are mature and developed enough to have a real relationship. Because high school relationships happen at such a dramatic time period in a humans life, when so much change is happening, it's almost inevitable for each party to grow apart from each other. They are beautiful things, high school flings, but that's just what they are, temporary.
But then she looks at me.

Why did it work out for me?

And I'm not going to deny it, I admit that my life has worked out very near perfectly. I went to high school, fell in love a few times, then had my first serious relationship in my junior year. That relationship started out just like every other high school relationship should, we were obsessed with each other, we never fought, we had lots of sex, typical kid stuff...

Then we grew up. Jordan left for bootcamp in my senior year. We both had the stress of making a superficial relationship into a lasting one. It was the first true relationship trial we had and we passed. Both of us were different people at the end of the three months, more mature, more willing to make this relationship real. It wasn't a fling anymore. It wasn't just high school love. We actually talked, we discussed everything, we were constantly in contact with each other. Then, when we were both ready, we were engaged.

So, it's not impossible, that you CAN'T marry your high school sweetheart, it's just you can't go into a marriage with the mind set of a couple teenagers. It's not going to last.